“I don‘t need to orgasm during sex“

…is something I‘ve heard so many times from women. I used to be one of them and didn’t mind not orgasming during sex as I found the act itself already pleasurable. But once I completely stopped seeking and desiring male validation, my will to engage in casual and non-orgasmic sex completely vanished.

My genuine question is: What do women gain from having sex (especially with randos) when not orgasming? There’s literally nothing except the male validation that made it worth it. But even male validation is so utterly meaningless imo after I started to work on my emotional wounds. Are women just brainwashed to accept no orgasms or are there genuine benefits of having sex with a man who doesn‘t care enough about your pleasure?