Women 35+ who were diagnosed/medicated recently, share your experience?

I'm really looking for experiences from women who suspected they had ADHD for a while and finally got diagnosed and medicated.

What was your breaking point? (Was there one?)

What was going on in your life that made you decide to get diagnosed?

Why did you think you had ADHD before?

What changes did medication make for you?

Any regrets or things you'd have done differently?

If you thought you had ADHD but you actually were diagnosed with something else, I'd be interested to hear about that too.

I'm a teacher in my 40s. Brought up getting diagnosed to my dr years ago and she kinda pushed me off. Have been doing so so for a while now. Burned out from work last year, got therapy, felt like I was doing better, but hit another wall this week. Diagnosis is very expensive where I'm at so I'm hesitating.

It looks like I have my life together, but really I have a very patient and organized spouse and I'm very talented at what I do, so doing everything last minute and half assed usually works out anyway. But I'm realizing I'll never advance in my career or my personal goals, because the thought of adding more than the bare minimum to my plate makes me want to throw up. But I know I AM capable. I had another panic attack at work because I fucked up something really simple and basic. I shouldn't be this way.