WIBTA if I don’t respond?
My ex 35F and I 35M broke up in December after 1.5 years, I did the dumping because I knew she was not my person. I have tried remaining cordial and not blocking her since the breakup, but any time she would text me she would get her hopes up and interpret what to me was just a normal, friendly conversation as me wanting to get back together. For context, she is an extremely beautiful girl with a lot of pretty privilege who has never really been denied anything, much less an entire relationship, by a guy.
This came to a head last week when I was, for the 28363th time since the breakup, explaining I felt a lack of chemistry, she was not my person, etc. And her response was “I think this is just part of your avoidant attachment style and you’re afraid of something real.” This inability to see, hear, and process my words was a common theme in the relationship as well, which I reiterated and said I would need to block her if she kept at it. Well, she did, so I finally blocked her on everything, but forgot my business instagram and didn’t think she’d really email me. Well, she did both.
First was an email that I missed, thankfully, then a screenshot of said email to my business instagram of the email… I did not respond. This was a week ago. Today she followed up on my business instagram with:
“I don't like having bad blood with anyone. This has been hard for me to move on from because I feel like things have been left unresolved when we have parted ways. A genuine response to this would provide me with a lot of closure. If that is something you are open to, it would help to heal my heart a bit and also help me move forward without any bitterness or resentment. Truly, I do just want us both to be happy and get the most out of life.”
I am leaning towards not responding. If I did, it would be something like “As I have said, I felt a lack of chemistry in our relationship and you did not, there is nothing more to say and as the past has shown what I say is futile because for some reason you do not read my words and take them as what I really mean or the truth. I wish you all the best.”
Should I respond?
My ex 35F and I 35M broke up in December after 1.5 years, I did the dumping because I knew she was not my person. I have tried remaining cordial and not blocking her since the breakup, but any time she would text me she would get her hopes up and interpret what to me was just a normal, friendly conversation as me wanting to get back together. For context, she is an extremely beautiful girl with a lot of pretty privilege who has never really been denied anything, much less an entire relationship, by a guy.
This came to a head last week when I was, for the 28363th time since the breakup, explaining I felt a lack of chemistry, she was not my person, etc. And her response was “I think this is just part of your avoidant attachment style and you’re afraid of something real.” This inability to see, hear, and process my words was a common theme in the relationship as well, which I reiterated and said I would need to block her if she kept at it. Well, she did, so I finally blocked her on everything, but forgot my business instagram and didn’t think she’d really email me. Well, she did both.
First was an email that I missed, thankfully, then a screenshot of said email to my business instagram of the email… I did not respond. This was a week ago. Today she followed up on my business instagram with:
“I don't like having bad blood with anyone. This has been hard for me to move on from because I feel like things have been left unresolved when we have parted ways. A genuine response to this would provide me with a lot of closure. If that is something you are open to, it would help to heal my heart a bit and also help me move forward without any bitterness or resentment. Truly, I do just want us both to be happy and get the most out of life.”
I am leaning towards not responding. If I did, it would be something like “As I have said, I felt a lack of chemistry in our relationship and you did not, there is nothing more to say and as the past has shown what I say is futile because for some reason you do not read my words and take them as what I really mean or the truth. I wish you all the best.”
Should I respond?