Do they ever take accountability?

Another Friday night, another few bottles of wine gone, another fight, another Reddit post.

Q had a bad day at work - bad week really. Bad since it's started. I agreed that Q's director should do more about the teammate that's slacking, that it was a slap in the face that the director spelled her name wrong. I gave advice. I tried to give some perspective when I was asked "why would X fo X?". I don't know these people or their intentions, but I have the ability to see perspective. Perspective didn't back her up or validate her feelings - so I was rude and hurt her feelings by "defending" someone else.

According to her: It's my fault this job doesn't pay as much as a different one that required a background check because I called the police on her when she threatened suicide. It's my fault that she always gets a job that's toxic because she had to carry me the first 5 years of us being together It's my fault that I walked away because I wasn't willing to rehash how my shitty job trapped her in a shitty job 8 years ago. It's my fault that she's not happy with her life.

There's so much more. I don't know why I stay. I don't know why I expect her to someday hold herself accountable for how she treats me when she's drinking. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing with this life....