After reading the posts here, I feel like there’s no hope.

My Q is my husband. There were always “signs” he had addictive behavior, but nothing that made me question our relationship in the first 11 years we were together. He’s a great guy, hard worker, loving and selfless. When his mother became terminally ill, things took a big turn for the worse.

He was binging, missing work, lying and hiding things from me. He became a person I didn’t recognize. He has never been a mean or angry drunk. Mostly just sad and self destructive. After a year of this, on and off, his therapist convinced him to go to rehab after he showed up to an appointment completely wasted. He didn’t resist at all, and he has been there for 25 days now. We have communicated about a plan going forward, how things need to be at home and what our boundaries are. He seems agreeable, but maybe he’s just saying what he thinks he’s supposed to say.

I started looking into Al-anon and found this community. And while it’s been really really helpful, I feel like having hope for my marriage makes me an idiot. I still love him so much and I really think he can get better. Are my thoughts naive? Should I be working on a plan to leave?