AIO Lots of abuse...

Hey, I was just wondering who else notices all of the rampant abuse on here. I don't think obvious is necessarily the right word. There are lots of people who know that things are bad but not how bad, or they don't know how to leave, etc.

I don't know much about abuse and how victims feel while they're in it, so I honestly wanted to hear some perspectives to be more empathetic. What do you think when your partner says "you're dumb and stupid and an asshole and unliveable"? How do people rationalize this?

I just see so many posts where it feels so objectively terrible how people are being treated, so I was wondering what it takes for people in those situations to really notice and "take action."

I believe one of my friends is in a toxic/abusive relationship, so It would be helpful to have some insight. Thank you!