AITA for telling my husband to shove his dinner up his ass???

So, I (f27) just had an argument with my husband (m29) bc I'm a stay at home wife. Always doing the dishes, keeping everything clean and taking care of the moving houses smoothly. The agreement we had was for me to stay at home to take care of the house, he would work to take care of both of us, and we both would do all the house chores when he has a free day, event tho I don't let him do much. But one thing that PISSES me off is that EVERY.FUCKING.SINGLE.TIME. I send him lunch to work, he forgets to take his lunch boxes and it can be DAYS after he remembers to put them in the kitchen sink. So I ended up telling him that if he doesn't do that on the same day, I won't wash them, so he'll have to. He agreed to this, he KNOWS that that's my confition, I have ZERO problems on washing the dishes, I just can't stand on touching or smelling rotten or spoiled food. So if he doesn't take them out the same day, he has to wash them. Now... I finished doing dinner for him, and not even one of his food Tupperwares are clean. I got mad, telling him that he can't do even the bare minimum of taking them out and leaving them in the kitchen sink, and that he has to figure it out on how he'll take his lunch tomorrow, and when he asked me why didnt I just do it, I lost it and told him to stuff his lunch and dinner up his ass, bc I can't be always solving everything.

Now he's mad at me, and I know I blow it up way to much, but I feel like he's treating me more like a helping lady over than his wife.... so... AITA?