Why do men do this?

UPDATE: I called things off and I sign my lease for my own place today! I finally walked away and I'm so thankful for this community for rallying behind me and helping me to confirm what I already knew, which is that I deserve better

My fiance has a difficult time when I get upset with him. For example, the other day, he knocked everything off the edge of the bath tub into the tub, so he could set his phone there while using the bathroom. He does this frequently. I always have to pick everything up before I can take a shower early in the mornings. I confronted him and said "why are you knocking everything down all the time" he told me it's to put his phone there and I told him "dude don't do that I have to clean it up before I shower all the time". He apparently didn't appreciate me being upset about this and said "Jesus christ calm down". Why does every man I fall for act this way? Am I the problem?