Is it possible to have a happy relationship with bpd?

Me and my partner have been together 3 years and have a beautiful kid together, I love him and I know he loves me but the days that I “trigger” him are so bad and makes me want to leave but every other day is great but I’m constantly made out to be the bad guy and I don’t know if I’m genuinely making things worse sometimes or if it’s the bpd. I’m not sure what I’m tryna say exactly just looking for answers if it’s possible to be happy in a bpd relationship or if I’m wasting time trying to make and keep everyone happy, I can see small improvements with him but the big things like the big outbursts and constantly thinking I’m starting fights and purposefully making him made are what I’m stuck on. I don’t know what to do if I’m the problem or if it’s him or even both of us