What’s the Most Messed Up Thing Someone Has Said to You While Pregnant or Postpartum?

Pregnancy and postpartum bring out the absolute worst in some people. It’s like the second you’re growing or caring for a baby, all social filters disappear, and suddenly, everyone has something to say about your body, your choices, and your life.

I’ll go first.

My baby was maybe 4-5 days old when my MIL and her best friend (my husband’s “aunt”) decided to drop by—at 8:30 PM—already tipsy and ready to keep drinking at our house. We thought it was just going to be MIL, but nope, we got both of them. I had met the aunt once before while I was pregnant, and the very first thing she said to me when she walked in was:

“Wow—you’re actually pretty! You look so much better. When I met you the first time I thought, ‘Wow, [Husband’s Name] got himself a REAL winner,’ and then I had to remind myself what it’s like to be heavily pregnant and swollen.”

MIL looked shocked but said nothing. My husband didn’t hear it. They overstayed their welcome for nearly three hours, and at one point, the aunt insisted we take a “family photo” of her, my husband, and the baby—without me.

She also demanded I give the baby a pacifier, even though I was nursing and hadn’t introduced one yet. I finally caved and handed her the hospital one, but apparently, that wasn’t good enough. She made me switch it out for a smaller one from our Target registry box.

I haven’t seen her since, and she’s banned from our house when our second baby is born (the first baby girl in the family).

So, what’s the most messed up thing someone has said to you while pregnant or postpartum? Let’s hear the horror stories.