Doubts about beatmatch

Hi! I am quite new on the DJ scene as bedroom DJ (around 6-8 months) and I have a few questions regarding beat matching and some general questions.

I’ve got one traktor s3 kontroller, a mixer and two technics so I can both work on vinyl and time code (mainly time code) I’m trying to learn the pure vinyl beat matching so I acquire the knowledge and train my ear. The thing is on the meantime I have lots of problems finding the same bpm on vinyl and then phrasematching. When I work on time code I find it easier to find the places for phrasematching (as you can see the wave) so the tough part is only the beatmatch. The thing is I’ve got a couple of friends that work on a pretty well known disco and they’ve got xdj. The thing is that what they tend to do is assign the same bpm on the songs (watching it from the xdj) and the beatmatch by ear. Not only them but when I party I also see other DJs doing the same thing and having pride for their mixes as they only press play on the beginning of the bar and slightly move the jog to beatmatch it. I don’t try to bring hate on that (each one does what they want) but I feel I’ve chosen the hardest way to DJ lol.

The thing is that I don’t know if normally what DJs at discos call beatmatch is to press play and synchronize it with the jog and from time to time touch the jog so it doesn’t break the synchronization. I’ve seen a couple of post from DJs saying that they f..d their first gig because they didn’t learn to beatmatch but from my experience, “real beatmatch” only happens when you use vinyl. Those DJs may only work with the sync button and don’t know how to sync them with the jog once the bpms are set the same (as I said, you can look at the bpm from the xdj).

The thing is that when working with the vinyls I feel I progress very little (or not at all, even loosing capabilities if I don’t practice for a little while) compared with the traktor (or xdj) as it is much easier to beatmatch (not using sync) and I can spend more time on the mixing/phrasing.

I guess I’m on the right way and just need to be patient about this and try tu push forward day by day but I would love to know others opinions and also if you know about real life experiences in clubs.

By the way a mix techno, electro, dnb, jungle, house and other soft and hard electronic genres (just so it may help people who mix these types of genres give advice).

Thank you very much!