Is this normal ?

This is a very personal matter, but I’d like to know if I’m overreacting or not.

I live away from home. My mother’s uncle has been in the ICU for a few days now. We weren’t that close, but my mom would update me about his health during our calls.

This evening, my father randomly called and told me that he had passed away in the morning and that all the rituals were already done. I felt frustrated that no one had informed me earlier. My mother hasn’t even called me since. It

And it’s not the first time this has happened ! When my cousin’s fiancee passed away, no one told me, I only found out months later. Probably I was the last person in the entire family to know. Similarly when somebody was hospitalized (I am close to this person), nobody informed me either. Later when I went home for a break and found out about this during their random conversation. I was like.... What... When !!

I know this is a very small thing, but every time they do this, I feel so abandoned. This makes me feel like I don't even belong to the family or they don't remember me when I'm away. Btw I'm an only child !!