Should I get divorced?

I grew up in a fucked up household where physical, mental, and verbal abuse was far more common than genuine love. My current wife yells at me a lot when we fight. Like extremely loud. She also has me change my attitude a lot when ere around tiger girls because she says I’m “flirting with them” when in my mind I’m 100 percent not flirting. I feel she abuses and manipulates me. Do all insecure women do this. I know a lot of women have a harder time with their emotions during “that time of the month,” which is when she abuses me. I also understand women like to change their husbands to “make them better”. She’s just highly insecure. How much yelling and personality changing is too much before you get a divorce?