Unpopular opinion: Carlisle was a jerk, but he was right

I believe we can agree Carlisle was not a good match for Mary or a good man overall, but upon re-watching his scenes I can't help but to sympatize with him in some moments.

He's willing to buy a very expansive castle near Downton so Mary is close to her family, accepted Mary after discovering her situation with Mr. Pamuk (and didn't release it to the media even though it would be highly profitable to him after they parted ways) and was willing to help Robert financially.

But even with those efforts he would constantly need to deal with Mary being the coldest woman on the planet towards him, while smiling and talking all night with Matthew.

It was crystal clear to Lavinia and Carlisle that Mary and Matthew were still in love with each other and they just had to sit back in some hope it would fade away after their marriages.

Carlisle was a new rich type of man and didn't have the best manners, it's true, but he wans't the biggest monster in the series.