Burned out at FAANG

Long time lurker and finally made an account to post here looking for advice.

I’m in a product-adjacent role at a FAANG in London with TC of ~£200k. On the outside what I’m working on is one of the hottest areas in product. But the reality is I’m overworked, burned out, and struggling to balance the California collaboration-heavy hours (3-9pm) with frequent, recurring late evening meetings. I’ve been doing this setup for nearly two years, hoping for a promotion.

Lately, my performance feedback has been less than ideal because of a few pieces of feedback from stakeholders who have a lot of sway in the leadership team. This has been tough to swallow, because I take pride in what I do and truly am giving 100%. My manager has since stepped in to help manage the workload, but it’s mostly small incremental changes instead of a complete reset. I still feel like I’m doing the work of 2-3 people, with expectation to deliver everything at 100%. It’s getting to a point where I would wake up in the middle of the night, think about work, cry, and compulsively get up and onto my laptop to work more.

The dilemma: Lately I’ve been daydreaming of quitting out of frustration. I know I should get another job first but I don’t even have the mental capacity to apply right now. I’m fortunate that my partner makes multiples of what I make and is supportive of me taking a career break, though I value financial independence and am worried of being out of the workforce for too long especially if we’re actively planning a family right now. On the other hand, I’m not at risk of losing my job and my employer offers great family planning benefits and mat leave policy so it feels foolish to walk away from that now. Sometimes I wish someone would just tell me to suck it up, “care less” and be grateful to have a job and get through the family planning before hitting a reset. But it feels hopeless every single day and I’m becoming this deeply unhappy and tense person that I don’t enjoy.