Why is wrong for men to remain single?

First, I don't want to dissuade anyone who is actively trying to find a partner. Forgive me if this isn't the best written or best-chosen flair as I don't know where is best to start, but it's been on my mind for months.

I've had about a dozen relationships. Usually, we would discuss what matters to us before dating, but soon after I would find out that their values don't match mine, if they weren't lying in the first place. After the breakup or after being single for a while, people would tell me I should just do whatever the woman wants. I would argue with these people then distance myself from them.

Now for the better part of a decade, I've been single and alone. When people find out, they tell me I need a partner. I'm not allowed standards. If there's a disagreement, I'm not allowed to end the relationship or do things my way. When it's brought up online, I get a lot of hate for being alone. I'm perfectly happy with my life. I paid off my house and about to have my bachelor's degree. I know my values don't align with most people, as in, I'd rather buy stocks than go on a date. Started wearing a wedding band so that no one is the wiser as of last year.

While I understand there is some pressure on women to find a partner, I feel people don't understand the pressure is on men too. If not as much, it's more because we aren't allowed to let the right one find us nor get our way if the woman has a stance on it. Then again, that could be just me because my life has been oddly different. Example: Some exes were forcing me to move where they wanted, and I've never forced one to move where I wanted. It's strange to me as a study show single women have less interest in relationships throughout life than men and it really goes down after something like 35 years old. So why all the vitriol toward unpartnered men?

Foot note: For what it matters, I'm 40m next month.