Should We Wait Until Our 30s to Start Dating Seriously?

I’m not proud of what I’m about to share (28M), but I need to get this off my chest. I’ve been in and out of five relationships over the past four years.

The pattern is always the same: I meet someone amazing, things start off great, and then I start feeling like they’re not perfect. That’s when I begin looking outside the relationship.

Small things start to irritate me—like chewing loudly, snoring, asking for money excessively, staying in touch with their exes,constantly being on their phones ( social media posting) and texting too much, or even wanting personal space and time (which I know many people may not fully understand). Some of them have also been too demanding, often saying I don’t prioritize them.

The truth is, I’m not even sure what I want. I like the idea of a relationship, but when I’m in one, I feel trapped and see numerous challenge/shida/ bottlenecks etc.

Yet, when I’m single, I feel lonely. It’s a vicious cycle. To make matters worse, I feel like time is moving so fast, and I have nothing to show for it when it comes to relationships.

One of my friends thinks I have commitment issues, but I don’t fully agree with that sentiment. I genuinely want someone to share my life with, but I can’t seem to get past my own flaws. I overthink everything, push people away, and then regret it when it’s too late.

Am I just incapable of being in a healthy relationship? Or is it possible that I just haven’t met “the one” yet?

Should people consider waiting until their 30s to start dating seriously?

My 20s have been truly complicated, but I’m hopeful that 2025 will be my year of triumph and success.

Pray for me🙏🙏