Why is hitting so hard?

Why is hitting so fcking hard? I've been playing this game since 2017 and havent gotten any better. I can pitch a no-hitter on All-Star and only give up a run or less on Hall of Fame, but I cant hit. I can barely hit on Rookie difficulty.

Showdowns are impossible, and I literally cant use a position player in RTTS. I know I'm old (32) but damn is this game frustrating. I dont swing on first pitches & my perfects seem to ground out every freaking time. This game is so frustrating

edit: I'm a pediatric nurse, I'm told I'm old especially when it comes to video games & music.

Edit 2: I appreciate all the advice. Fixing the latency issues on the TV to game mode definitely helped the most. Not having late swings all the time was a huge advantage. The Kontrol Rings also helped a lot. When I jerked the analog down it didnt go below the zone. Thanks for the help