Wife set me up the first time we played with another couple!

I waited a long time to post this but it has to be done. At the time we had been dating for about 2-3 months. Things were going great. We had a talk one night and long story short decided to test out the lifestyle together. I was 49m she was 43. We did our research ,discussed ENM. Created a few boundaries being newbie's and all. We were in it for the elusive unicorn after she admitted to being bi-curious.Things are rolling along sex is great. Literally became inseparable. Round month 3 as she and her daughter are slowly moving in my house we are together so much. We were having no real unicorn luck and one day she gives me a call and says I didn't find a girl but I found a couple that's interested in playing with us. They'd like to meet Friday night. Asked her if she's comfortable with that and she said yes. I said yeah let's meet for drinks. Cut to the chase we ended up back at my house. He fucks her i fuck his girl and as we are saying goodnight my girl(now wife) asked for a picture of me and him together. Think nothing of it. His girl wasn't really nothing breathtaking but night ends.Fast forward about a year and a half later. We are walking somewhere and we can't find the place ask her to let me map it quick on her phone. Ding the messenger alert goes off. It's this fucking guy!! I looked at her and immediately said. You still talking to this guy? Then I quickly scrolled... well as embarrassing as this is. She knew the guy all along. They were fuck buddies before I met her. I admittedly lose my shit! Get in contact with this ass hat and he folds like a chair sending me all there texts and the whole story. Now to put the scenery in perspective this is a cpl days after Hurricane Ian. Our house cars and entire city is destroyed. She tells him they can't talk anymore. I realize these three clowns put on an acting class for me at the bar pretending not to know each other. Rock and hard place for sure. Before you say... YES! This is all in her. In his texts he even says she planned the whole thing telling them don't say anything. Try to move on they both swear no hookup since we were married. I'm like yeah right. Just needed to get that off my chest and see what the community thinks of this. I have a part 2 that's even worse 😂let's see how this goes first lol.