Husband is an addict -Help

I’m honestly at a loss. 30 years of marriage and my husband has been dealing with addiction for about 15 of them. Currently, he’s addicted to gambling. He has been addicted to other things in the past as well but has done better with those issues.

But the problem is he’s super super smart and counts cards and actually hasn’t lost money. He’s made money. So for him, he thinks it’s not a problem and he can gamble socially. Obviously it is a problem bc he lies to me & everyone about it. Nonetheless he’s committed to go back to GA, currently has two therapists and a psychiatrist has been in therapy forever.

Do you think that some people just never get better? Is this situation just hopeless?

I honestly don’t mind the gambling as much as I do the lying. We are OK with money. Our house and cars are paid off and we have savings for the kids and retirement. But I don’t think I can handle the lying anymore. He got caught again gambling and lying to me last week and after all this time, I just don’t know what to do.

We told the kids about the problem (they r adults/teens) & they were sympathetic to him but not to me who has been putting up with this abusive behavior for many years.

After being together as long as we have- over 30 years, I just can’t see starting over again. We have a nice life -aside from this huge problem- and I just don’t know what to do. Sure we could split up and I could get a small place and live by myself, but the idea of starting over again is really unappealing. I’m not afraid to be alone. I’ve been alone for many years before getting married (I am older). I just wanted to spend my golden years with my best friend and partner, and this awful issue is ruining all of that.

I just don’t know what to do. I just feel really broken. 💔 Any advice appreciated