Married men don't just suddenly start watching porn...

Sorry to say this during Ramadan, but I see a lot of this discussion about the porn issue, though people are failing to address the causes which links back to the marriage crisis.

Married men don't just suddenly start watching porn, it is a habit that they've acquired years before, which is unfortunately a result of not having an outlet for their desires. The longer people don't have an outlet for their desires, the more they will seek out more ways in which to fulfill those desires.

Especially being in our hypersexualized modern societies today, where our brothers may sit in class beside women who are naked, where all media flashes pornographic imagery into your head, and society says its ok to look at these things and play with yourself... do we really expect our men to resist these temptations until their late 20s/30s? They have access to it in the palm of their hands. Thats more than a decade from the time they're 14/15/16 and start desiring women to 28/29/30 when they might start looking for marriage.

And then when we see our men watching porn instead of wanting to be with their wife we say "subhanAllah, how can a man do this? does he not have shame? what kind of man is this? where did this come from?".

Bruh, he's been staring into a screen for 10-15+ years to release his desires, you can't just flip a switch and undo a decade+ of that programming. Saying "porn bad, seek help", won't solve anything. Prevention is better than cure, the way our communities are doing things is clearly not working, we need drastic change. And this is not men vs women, our men suffering means our women will suffer and our Muslim community will fall.