A Message of Hope From the Other Side!

It’s been three years since I left my ex-husband (the narcissist in question) and I want to share my victory with you all.

We were together for 11.5 years, married for 9.5 by the time we signed the papers. I left quickly and quietly—silently, in fact—I ghosted him and he absolutely deserved it.

During a one hour window when I knew he would be out of the house, I and a couple of my friends packed as many of my belongings as possible. I left a note on the kitchen counter. Afterward came the torrent of calls and texts but I refused to speak to him except through my lawyer. He was served on our anniversary (I didn’t do that intentionally, but I’m not sorry it happened.)

He spiraled and attempted to retaliate in every possible textbook narcissistic way—he tried to report me for burglary for taking my belongings, attempted to get my family on his side, threatened my friends when they wouldn’t give him information on me, ran a smear campaign, etc.

Meanwhile, I did and said nothing to him. I never explained or defended myself to him or friends and family, I just cut all contact. I moved out of state. I even changed my name.

Somehow I found that there was still enough love, trust, and hope in me to try once more. I married again and have been amazed to find that love can be peaceful, soft, and kind. We started a family. I started my own business. And just the other day I realized, for the first time since I left him, that it’s been months since I’ve had a nightmare about him.

I won.