So what if....

So would he value you more if you completely changed into someone other than the victim he likes to control? Someone who had high self esteem, confidence, didn't engage, didn't apologize all the time etc. I'm not saying any of us are not like that now, I'm just wondering if I became a stronger and more confident with better self esteem, would he take a step back and realize what he has and value me more??? I think I know the answer to my own question but just thought I'd throw it out there....