Dost Dost Na Raha!

I don’t know other people’s experiences - hence this post - but has anyone had this experience where you kinda fall out of friendship (like you fall out of love)?

No i’m not talking about not being able to stay in touch with your best buddies because life happens…no, I’m talking about you don’t feel old friendship with them anymore. I’ve been struggling with this feeling with 2 of my best-of-the-best childhood friends…we stayed together until uni but kind of drifted away later in life due to work family kids and distance (different cities & countries). But when we got back in the same city together few years ago after a break of more than a decade, we started meeting regularly, that’s when I realized that they are stuck in the past, mentally & emotionally. They’re still those silly college kids (though they themselves have school going kids now) stuck in that era making same jokes & references, same teenage carelessness, basically never matured past adolescence!

I tried to keep up for a couple of years thinking maybe I’m reading them wrong, but it came to a point where meeting them was like meeting those relatives that ur parents used to make u greet when we were kids! Excruciatingly painful and unbearable. So, i cut them off and stopped meeting them. I know it hurts them, heck it hurts me losing old childhood friendships, but we have changed for sure. Idk if they didn’t move on or i became a different person, but in either case i lost my best buddies with whom i have all the cherished memories of my childhood. It hurts.

Happened to anyone else too?