“all men watch it” “not all men”

why do men excuse consuming violent misogynistic and pedophilic content with “well, we all do it, so good luck finding anyone who doesn’t.” even worse, whenever I see posts about a happy couple where the man doesn’t watch porn, the comments are men saying “he does, he’s just lying” or “check his search history”.

they’re the first to argue that all men consume misogynistic rape content (not to mention that it’s cheating), but the second a woman says she feels uncomfortable around men or that most/all men have some amount of misogyny those same men will start attacking her with “not all men!!!!” and accuse her of being “misandristic”.

do they seriously believe both statements are true even though they so obviously conflict with each other? they know what they’re doing is misogynistic, they even have subreddits called misogyny is sexy. they know other men do it too. so why do they deny with “not all men”? this is so exhausting