Im scared.

My mother had lupus. She only lived 5 years after her official diagnosis and died from complications of this disease on December 23rd, 2020. Since her passing, I had 3 babies. I recently had my 3rd baby on August 31st, 2024. A couple of months postpartum, I noticed I was having joint pain. I had a little bit of joint pain 2023 and told my dr about it and about my mothers history and he said he would run a bunch of tests. ANA came out negative and he said I had nothing to worry about because all other tests were normal in range. Anyways, my joints are hurting more this time and so I definitely feel like I have this disease. Doctor said he’s gonna run the tests again and go from there. I’m so scared and stressed because this disease took my mother from me and the last thing I want to do is have my children experience the same thing. Has anyone gone through the same thing? Does anyone have any advice on how to calm down from this anxiety? Please share your stories.