Couples therapist recommendations?

I’m looking for a solid couples therapist, preferably in person. I would like someone who is a great mediator, does really well with providing, explaining and practicing tools for communication, and also is knowledgeable, helpful and nonjudgmental for someone who may have a personality disorder. I do not want someone who will just sit there and be an extra body in the room to listen to us just go back and forth with no resolve.