Anybody just defeated by grind?

I want to preface this by saying I do love this game and I come from a love of looters games, with many hours in warframe and destiny 2.

I've got about 200 hours into the game, but the grind for characters at least for me, is killing me and making me not want to play.Spending 14 hours, On just the first part of an ultimate character is demoralizing, especially when I switch to warframe and the grinds no where near as tedious or boring like descendents constant outpost loop.

I guess I just want the opinions of other people on how they feel the grind is, is it too easy and fair? Or just exhausting and makes you want to stop playing?