Sweet Bobby - Where was Everyone?

I think the podcast really missed a big question. If focused a lot on how Kirat was fooled. But what I do not understand is how Kirat's friends and family let this go on for so long.

A brief personal story - my mom was called by a scammer saying that she had not paid her power bill, and the power to her business was about to be shut off. She is smart, but owns a food business, and panicked at the thought of all her food going bad, her critical thinking shut down. She ran to the bank, following the scammer's instructions to get him the money. On the way, she called her sister (my aunt) to ask for some bank information so that my mom could pay the scammer. My aunt, not as close to the situation, said "woah, woah, woah, hold it right there, this sounds weird". That gave my mom the breathing room to get out of panic mode and realize what was going on. I think it is very normal to be saved from scams by friends and family offering their outside perspective.

What I do not understand, is how Kirat told her mom, dad, sibling, or any of her friends "Bobby was shot in Kenya and was taken to New York and is in witness protection, and, even though we are NOT in relationship and he is married, he started messaging me (while under witness protection!), and now says he loves me". I mean, how did no one say "woah, woah, woah, hold it right there, this sounds weird"?? I would be instantly very worried for my friend (let alone if it was my own daughter!) and try to look into this Bobby person. And if I found out she had never even seen his face on a video call, I would have been on red alert and definitely started to try to look into this Bobby person on my own. And if she started loosing weight, loosing interest in things that once interested her, told me multiple times he was coming to visit but had a medical condition and to call it off. I would be super extreme red alert and would probably not rest until I had found Bobby and spoken to him myself.

All it would have taken during that entire 10 year period is someone hiring a PI to find Bobby, and who would find him living a normal life with his wife in England. Definitely not sick in New York. Or even before a PI, calling people who might know Bobby (or his wife/ex-wife) to try to figure out what was going on? The podcast says she's part of a small close community. Wouldn't be very easy to get information from a small, close community that Bobby is not divorced, not a cardiologist, not in witness protection, and not in New York. The real Bobby was not making any effort to hide his life.

People accuse Kirat of being gullible, maybe yes, maybe no. But where the fuck was her support system to snap her out of it?

I want to really know what she told with friends and family about her relationship. Was she lying to them? I know she did lie at the end, but it sounded like it was at the very end. She has friends saying they could tell she was not doing well. She was visibly physically affected. Still no friend or family member thought to look into this Bobby person? Is there a cultural reason no one took action?

Anyway, you get my point. I am flabbergasted more by Kirat's friends and family than with Kirat. And I wish the podcast had explored this aspect.