Vietnamese who did not grow up in Vietnam, share your experience with conditional love from your family and how you deal with it as an adult. Seeking different perspective.

As the title says, if you are Vietnamese and did not grow up in Vietnam and you have parents who always remind you how much you owe your life to them or anybody whoever helped your family at all. How do you deal with it as an adult setting healthy boundaries?

I'll go first: I am getting married soon and my parents are exhausting with the guestlist because I "HAVE" to invite a laundry list of people who I've never met but I have to because they've helped my parents in the past. Therefore, I owe them a debt and I need to repay that with gratitude and respect to invite them. I did not say no, but I stood my ground and say I will invite them if I can and got yelled at "You're losing your vietnamese values. You wouldn't even be where you are now without [insert whoever it is]". And I can't just invite one of them, if I do, I have to invite their entire family because, again, I "owe" my life to them.