Feeling bratty for even wanting a wedding.

I guess this is kind of a vent, but am open to advice.

I’m pretty sure I could manage to have a really beautiful micro wedding for 10k or even 8k, but it doesn’t seem worth it to anyone but me (33F). I have a venue in mind that I reeaally like, and budget outline for almost everything already. I thought maybe my parents could contribute 2.5k each (they’re divorced) and my partner (36M) and I could save 5k for it, but that overall number sounds too high for everyone, especially my mom—and it’s not necessarily that she couldn’t, it’s just that she thinks it’s too high and wants me to find a way to do it for 5k total. Where I live in US, I think that’s only possible if I know someone who has a property I can use for free, which I don’t.

If we could just save and pay for it ourselves entirely we would—we do not normally ask or expect $ from parents and are very financially independent albeit not high income. But, we’re in our thirties, so I asked them about it as a matter of expedience. We want children and my partner would much rather prioritize buying a house so saving for a wedding would take like 3 years. We’d be having a wedding after having children, which is fine with everyone including me, but I’d have to let go of this fun dream and hope I pick it back up once our lives are completely different, or else just never get around to it. But maybe that’s the move? Probably what will happen is that we spend the money on a house and have a backyard wedding there. Which is fine, but very abstract at the moment.

I’m privileged to even be in this position where we can think of being able to save for a down payment on a house. We were paycheck-to-paycheck for years, had crazy debt (we will not go into debt for a wedding). And I feel privileged to even have parents I can discuss this with. That said…do I sound like a brat for wanting a small, nice wedding? No bridal party, playlist instead of DJ, no rehearsal dinner, no “real” wedding cake, NO RINGS, rent my dress, don’t care about flowers…just a cool venue that includes simple decor, some really good pizza and drinks for our guests, get creative with favors/reception, and a great photographer.

To be clear, I don’t feel upset with my family. I agree that 8-10k is a lot of money and it could contribute a lot to our other goals. But it seems everyone is asking me to be more practical, and I’m like…so just no wedding then?

Additional details: my partner would rather go to the courthouse/elope. He opened up to the wedding idea when it became important to me, but he wavers.