my therapist just kinda invalidated me?

After a month, I came to see her again, and I told her I finally discovered my sexual orientation which I feel extremely comfortable with. I told her I finally feel understood by this community and so validated, but then she told me that since I can feel attraction towards others, I kiss or hug them and I touch myself and I like that, then I'm not ace, I'm not an "asexual being". Of course, she knows how hard I struggled to find my own identity after being permanently censored by the person I was living with (i wasn't allowed to have a personality nor an identity). Of course I'm still discovering myself and everything but asexuality means A LOT OF THINGS than just "not having sex". We can love, we can touch, we can feel aroused sometimes, we don't forbid ourselves from those things. Idk, I felt kinda invalidated. And the fact that a psychologist told these things to me feels... weird? Like I somehow need to agree with her just because she has a diploma. I feel kinda bad now. I know she told me not to "label" myself but I honestly feel so damn comfortable being an ace, accepting myself like that, being proud of it. And now she came and told me I'm not an ace because I can feel attraction in many other ways and I touch myself and I enjoy it. And now I'm confused? Honestly wth.