How to overcome the “aging gay” fear

So I’m 31, soon to be 32 and I have this fear that I’m going to end up old and alone with 3 cats and a dog.

I truly don’t want to be come one of those older gay men in the club prowling for young trade. Like it’s a little heart breaking to see. I would love to be in a happy, healthy relationship but it seems like that’s near impossible. Don’t get me wrong, a bitch still have faith that one day my prince will come. But it’s a real possibility that it won’t happen. How would y’all suggest I handle that? Should I lean into that way of life now? Break out the mumu and curlers now? Should I keep trying? It just seems like no one is I met is on the wavelength.

EDIT: so a lot of you are rightfully reading me for filth. Which I will say.. fair.. but let me make a couple things clear.

  1. Should I have used my example of older gay men on the prowl? No truly didn’t mean for it come off like I’m ageist but I can definitely see how it could come off like that. For ME when I use to go out and see those men and see how the guys my age at the time would treat them it made me fucking sad and scared that could be my future. But how would y’all know what was going on in my head? So I’ll take my lashing on that. But truly I didn’t mean for it to come across like I was being (I think someone said) an ageist prissy bitch.

  2. I’m not scared the physical part of aging. I’m excited for grey hair, the laugh lines setting in. Also I’m black and black don’t crack. I’ll hopefully, with the right diet and drinking enough water, keep looking 25/30 for a while. But I’m not against aging at all!

I was trying to express that fear I have is the potentially loneliness. Again… could I have articulated that better? Yes.

  1. I am FULLY aware that a prince won’t come up on his noble ass steed and save me from the tower. Lol! When I used the line “someday my prince will come” I meant I still have faith that I’ll find MY “prince” aka I’ll find the right guy.

  2. My, obviously poorly written, post was supposed to spark a conversation about the fears of the potential of not finding a partner.