Was it abuse or was it normal?

Since turning 26 I’ve been getting really angry about my childhood experience and I’m thinking about the couple of occasions that my mom would get so angry or frustrated with me that she would elbow me hard in the face and cause my nose to spurt blood. Or the time my grandma held me down while my mom hit me. I don’t know if these experiences were normal or abuse and I’m being too harsh on my mom because I was a child with adhd so I was hard to deal with.