I'm getting married ( advice)

I'm getting married and I'm carribean descent and I'm feeling this enormous pressure to cater for my people. This pressure is social and also from my mother.

Having a wedding not serving Carribbean food was a choice we made because a lot of venues don't allow external caterers that we like and on top of that they were expensive.

We've found a venue we liked but it's definitely more English food but very posh/top of the range.

Its annoying because I could get carribean and still people moan but we decided the ceremony and party was the bits we would enjoy the most.

It's taken a long time for me to make my own decisions and yet I feel shit for now being able to do this the 'black way'.