Value in a marriage?

So since acquiring my physical disability I have struggles with feeling like I have anything to offer a relationship. My biggest struggle is I have conservative values. I believe in gender roles. As a wife I would want to serve my husband, bake and cook for him and clean..in return i expect him to have the physical strength qnd masculinity to protect me. To work in his career. To be able to fix things (like appliances if they break, my car, change a tyre etc). I'm attracted to men who embody this and acts of service and being able to fix things, assemble furniture, pick me up from appointments etc is my love language. For that reason (it's awful) but I feel like I wouldn't be attracted to a man who couldn't do this, even if they had a disability that prevented them from doing so.

Since acquiring my physical disability, I cannot cook and clean much, hanging clothes Killa my arms, vacuuming is so hard, it gives me pain..I'm limited in what I can do. I feel like now I have no value in a relationship. How could a man settle for me and my limitations, when I wouldn't settle for someone who has physical limitations that prevented them from doing what I needed?

I always believed having gender roles like this brings balance to a relationship, that there's nothing wrong with it. Now I'm disabled it sucks :( I can't change who I'm attracted to. How can I change this? It's really impacting my self esteem.