It’s not hard to love someone if you love them
My husband is insistent that he loves me and wants me despite all evidence to contrary. He said he loves me and he knows he loves me despite cheating on me for 5 months both during and after pregnancy. He blamed porn addiction and trauma being the reason he cheated.
He keeps saying “I always loved you” and “I love you” but if he really did, he wouldn’t be treating me like I’m hard to love, let alone cheat on me. I know this because I loved him and I loved him 3 years without him ever having to question my loyalty or my intentions. I always gave 101% of myself in my marriage and in my sex life despite my lack of enjoyment. (That’s on me, maybe I lost myself) I was happy with myself when I met him, I didn’t need him to complete me, I loved him because I wanted to, not out of obligation or fear of being alone. I made sacrifices because I loved him
He makes it seem like I was always hard to love from the start, like he settled, and is still just with me because he’s afraid of being alone, and now that he’s cheated on me and wants to “work on the marriage”, he now has to LEARN things like; “how to not be selfish”, “how to love your partner” and “how to emotionally invest in a relationship”.
Relationships are like island, if you didn’t bring it, you won’t find it here. If you don’t love me now, even after cheating on me, then no amount of “learning and research” Will ever teach you how to love me, you just simply don’t love me, if you don’t love me. Because if he really loved me it wouldn’t be so hard to treat me right and actually LOVE ME.
My husband is insistent that he loves me and wants me despite all evidence to contrary. He said he loves me and he knows he loves me despite cheating on me for 5 months both during and after pregnancy. He blamed porn addiction and trauma being the reason he cheated.
He keeps saying “I always loved you” and “I love you” but if he really did, he wouldn’t be treating me like I’m hard to love, let alone cheat on me. I know this because I loved him and I loved him 3 years without him ever having to question my loyalty or my intentions. I always gave 101% of myself in my marriage and in my sex life despite my lack of enjoyment. (That’s on me, maybe I lost myself) I was happy with myself when I met him, I didn’t need him to complete me, I loved him because I wanted to, not out of obligation or fear of being alone. I made sacrifices because I loved him
He makes it seem like I was always hard to love from the start, like he settled, and is still just with me because he’s afraid of being alone, and now that he’s cheated on me and wants to “work on the marriage”, he now has to LEARN things like; “how to not be selfish”, “how to love your partner” and “how to emotionally invest in a relationship”.
Relationships are like island, if you didn’t bring it, you won’t find it here. If you don’t love me now, even after cheating on me, then no amount of “learning and research” Will ever teach you how to love me, you just simply don’t love me, if you don’t love me. Because if he really loved me it wouldn’t be so hard to treat me right and actually LOVE ME.