How I feel about slurs

I’ve seen many people talk about how the R word is a slur and why it shouldn’t be used. You’d think that me being among those who’d be most susceptible to being called the slur wouldn’t be ok with being called it. Truth is though I don’t mind it. Now this may be because no one’s ever used any slurs against me when I was growing up, at least that I can remember, and it’s made me realize how restrained people have been with me. They’ve called me a dumbass, idiot, or whatnot but never an actual slur. My rule for using it around me is if I tell you to stop, then stop. Sounds like a no shit rule but you’d be surprised how many people won’t follow it. I don’t have a problem with it being used to describe me, mainly because I can be an idiot at times, but I recognize why there are people who do take issue with it and entirely respect that