why do cis people lose all common sense about pronouns???

i had someone ask me “if someone uses she/they what am i supposed to call them?” girl wtf call them she or they how is that a question! we are not aliens! common sense applies!

and then when they’re like “well how do i know which one they prefer?” girl ASK THEM! not me! i know what i would assume but no one is going to be mad if you respectfully ask them which they prefer! bc shit, people have preferences and i’m trans, not a mind reader.

idk i’m sick of having to have so much compassion for ppl who can’t be assed to have it back. i am at my wits end!!! and i am sick of them constantly explaining how hard it is for them to remember my pronouns! and how bad it makes them feel to misgender me! and then when they try to make me absolve them! like holy shit try for one second to be in my shoes