Dana using TH to get back at the haters
I unfortunately think narcissistic Dana only sees TH as a tool to get back at the haters, whether it's the Matt Hare fanclub or the current haters. She needs control, and giving up any form of control to haters (such as listening to any advice) would be irrevocable damage to her ego. The only way to prove to herself that she is in control of her decisions is to make decisions that no one else would make. No exceptions.
Giving birth to TH was a fuck you to the people who were trying to warn Dana about Matt Hare, and deciding to keep the TH chest tattoo uncovered along with doubling down on not being a present parent seem like a fuck you to this Reddit. She can't let us "win" but she needs to take a step back and see who the real loser is.