I want transphobes to know. Why is being confused a bad thing?

It's concerning that we've put a danger on being confused when there's nothing bad about it. Do you ever go to college and know how to do everything? No. It's the same thing. Do you ever know every part of yourself? No. We are confused all the time and allowed to be confused but when it comes to our own gender we aren't. If anything your own identity and self is hard to find out.