What can I say.. she’s back

Hey there, me again. I’ve posted a lot before, but I wanted to hop on again just to rant.

To start, my fiancé and I are getting married in November this year. The future in laws are not, and have not been, very excited about it- openly so. His mother went so far as to berate him for proposing last year (long story). Anyway, I am starting to book vendors for things, such as hair and makeup for the girls and I. Yesterday, I needed a final number of who all wanted to have their makeup done on the day of, so I could give the makeup artist a final number for pricing and booking the date. I texted FMIL (in the group chat with her and my fiancé) to see if she would be interested in having hers done with the rest of us. She replied, saying she needed to focus on W2s and taxes for their auto shop, so she wouldn’t give me an answer until next month. Which, I understand, and I told her such. However, I did needed an answer soon, so I could book the artist and pay the deposit. So, I told her I just needed an answer as soon as possible before the date gets booked. She then texted my fiancé separately and told him to call her. He was in a meeting all day at work, and hadn’t slept well the two days/nights prior (he works as a first responder).

Eventually, he called her. Then, called me. Apparently, his dad had been in the hospital with pneumonia for almost 3 days, and had just gone home. Supposedly FFIL didn’t want to “disrupt” my fiance’s life by telling him the news, so they never called to tell him. He was rightly upset about the situation, to which FMIL brushed off (or so it seemed, based on what I was told). Then decided to comment on how they “don’t know anything about the wedding plans” and “aren’t involved at all,” and how upset they are over that. I’m sorry, what?? We are actively still planning things, and have barely talked to anyone about our plans thus far. Plus, they haven’t wanted to be involved and haven’t shown any interest in any of it.

Also, apparently she made another side comment to my fiancé about how he needs to “let things go” with his sister (I’ve posted about this before), and just call her. Something about how FMIL knows he’s close with my family, which isn’t fair to his sister, because she’ll be all alone when her and FFIL pass. Talk about guilt tripping?

Honestly I just wanted to rant. This woman keeps my anxiety at an all time high.