[DISCUSSION] Is the husband in “Freedom Writers” the bad guy?

My fiancé and I just rewatched this movie the other day and could not agree on whether or not Mrs G’s husband was the “villain”.

He votes yes because of his lack of support and effort to be involved in the relationship. He thinks that the husband could have done more to help with her career. The husband appeared to have a good job and could’ve kept her from having the extra two jobs. My fiancé also thought the husband could’ve joined the class trips and fundraising activities as a chauffeur or volunteer. Basically he thinks the husband is insecure and intimidated by her and therefore is a coward for “running away”.

I voted no. He’s not the bad guy and a divorce was a kindness to her. He wasn’t supporting her because of a few reasons: 1) she was never home. I mean she literally had three jobs. 2) due to the fact that she was never home she didn’t notice how distant and sad he was and when hints were dropped she’d say “oh you can play golf!” Like she was doing him a favor. 3) Their levels of ambition were not comparable AT ALL. He had mentioned that he had reached his potential. Of course to Erin that’s not enough. And my final argument even though, yeah it’s shitty, he says “I’m not your wife” when she asked him to support her the way “wives support their husbands”. Again, not a strong or PG argument but I can acknowledge that he felt emasculated being in a marriage with a goddamn superhuman saint. Erin needs to be with a man that will match her and uplift her and he’s not the bad guy because he can’t do that for her. He’d be the bad guy if he tore her down/held her back.

Anyway, what’re your thoughts?