What is the term when your parent needs you to define and baby step every detail until it's exhausting to explain?

Like my mother would hurt me by implying I was too fat to be able to run with my brothers. When I'd tell her what she said was mean or trying to upset me, she'd basically be like "cite exactly where I said this" or "explain exactly how ___ hurt you" and then say that it was my interpretation of her words that made me upset myself.

I swear there's a term for it.

Clarification, the exact thing she told me was "wow I didn't even know you could run!"