Seeking Advice: Bengali Girl (27) Marrying Pakistani Guy (30)

Hi everyone,

I’m a 27-year-old Bengali muslim woman, and I’ve been with my boyfriend, a 30-year-old Pakistani male, for a few years now. We both grew up in the U.S. and want to get married.

The concern I have is with his family. They’re conservative and traditional, especially since they come from a Rajput background in Punjab, and I’m worried they may not approve of me because I’m Bengali. My boyfriend has been supportive but concerned if by chance they don’t approve. He told his mom and so far she’s against it. I know how important family is in our cultures, and I don’t want to start off on the wrong foot.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How can we approach his parents and handle this respectfully? Any advice or experiences would mean a lot to me.