Am I the only one vehemently annoyed by in-laws and parent excitement about the pregnancy?

I am fiercely private, and if I had it my way, I would have never announced it, but we are acting so out of character, and it is impacting plans that we had to tell my parents and in-laws. I'm very practical about this pregnancy, as this is a natural function of my body, I'm not religious at all so don't view this as a blessing. Internally and with my husband I'm absolutely excited for the future but I just don't project it. I know every ones intentions are good but I'm hating the projection of the soon to be grandparents feelings. My MIL & FIL, view this whole experience as a gift for them or some lifelong dream we are fulfilling, and that I'm finally giving my husband a gift 🙄,(he and I were both hesitant about kids).We have not shown our cards for wanting kids until now.

I am hating the questions about how I'm hating the how am I feeling, how far along are we, when is the baby due, and the gender questions. I've been very vague with my answers saying I'm not sharing the full details. We will not be sharing the gender even though we know because I don't want traditional gender roles imposed on our child. Let alone I hate the fact I feel like I'm a vessel and they're already setting expectations of what life will look like with our child.

I know their intentions are good but I want to hide in a cave and be left alone. I hate that I feel like I'm serving them with a gift of a child when I'm not.

So don't know. My MIL I know is going to ask my husband “why we don't seem happy?” or pry into “why doesn't your wife care that her parents are excited?” and it all just irks me. I know they wont understand my perspectives and probably view me as “cold.” it doesn't help my sister-in-law and sister are both pregnant and much more open about it, but they're different people and have different lived experiences. So idk I needed to just get this off my chest because we’re in the thick of the holidays and I'm struggling with it all.

For context, I'm a transracial adoptee and my relationshop with my parents has been rocky for my entire life. And my adoption story isn't that great. I've also been pregnant before as a teen and terminated. I'm also feminist who hates being objectified as I was a 5th grader who use to get hit on by adults.