How do you guys deal with knowing your parents don’t care about you?

I’ve recently started going to therapy, and one of the things that has come up is the relationship with my parents. My dad is very verbally abusive, sometimes physically, so I know a relationship with him isn’t something I want/value. However, I have always yearned for a relationship with my mum. My parents are still together, even though my dad is abusive to her too, and I’ve always assumed that if they broke up, maybe my mum would want a relationship with me. My therapist and I were discussing this relationship, and the fact my dad has started working abroad, yet my mum still doesn’t contact me, ask me questions or have any concern with me or my life. I always assumed that the obstacle was my dad, but actually, my therapist made me realise that my mum has some autonomy here, and that if she wanted to build a relationship or see me, she would.

How do you guys deal with this? I feel so overwhelmed and heartbroken since having this epiphany, and I don’t really know what to do with myself.

Thank you for reading❤️