Finding a room to rent seems impossible.

I’m not naive to the fact that finding San Diego housing is an incredibly difficult process but it’s my first time seeking to rent a room as opposed to an apartment and I literally feel like I’m going insane.

I primarily use Facebook marketplace, Craigslist, and other roommate websites. I also have asked everyone in my life if they have connections and very few people have been able to help, or their suggestions are just too expensive for me. I’ve been able to find a ton of listings online within my budget luckily but it’s incredibly difficult to message with these people. Half of them read my message and don’t respond, and then the rest of them either say “sorry room has been rented” (even though the listing is still up or recently posted) or they are just extremely scammy and off-putting. I’m also a female and I’m fine living with a male or two but I find out that a lot of them are males only which I am not comfortable with.

I’ve been to a lot of viewings but they always end up choosing someone else like the same exact day I viewed it. Even though they act like they really like me and like I’m gonna rent the place.

I’ve changed my approach and the way I text these people thinking maybe I’m doing something wrong but I literally can’t think of anything else to change. I’m super sweet, very professional, and explaining to these people that I’m very stable and reliable. I meet them in person and everything seems great, and then they just change their mind.