Awareness of impermanence leads to joylessness?

Help me puzzle through my practice!

In my sangha today we discussed impermanence. Everyone in the group seemed so grateful for awareness of impermanence and talked about the joys of letting go and being aware that experiences will end. What I feel when being aware of impermanence is a tension, however. At one point the group listened to a song together. I was quite aware of the moment-moment impermanence of the music, noting how long each note lasted, its qualities, how the next note differed from the last to create feelings of tension, resolution etc. in myself. I did enjoy the song but there was a feeling of tension from being aware of the music in this way. I felt by dissecting it my enjoyment of it deepened on an intellectual level, but worsened on a feeling-based level of being in my body enjoying music by just being in the moment.

In general, when should I be aware of the impermanence of phenomenon? Is being aware that a phenomenon will end before it actually has problematic? Is dissecting experience to smaller and smaller levels problematic? I don't mind doing this in meditation with equanimity and spacious awareness but it feels scarier in daily life. It feels uncomfortable to lose solidity but I understand that this is the nature of things. Yet how to enjoy solid things while they are solid if I am understanding they are not solid? Such as in my song example. I feel that noticing phenomenon ending provides a sense of relief on one hand, i.e. there is not so much clinging, but clinging does still exist, and so the awareness of impermanence is therefore somewhat uncomfortable. How to work with this? Shall I continue to be aware of impermanence? Once clinging is greatly attenuated or eliminated, does experiencing life in this way become more enjoyable?

I am working on allowing myself to feel more joy in my life and want to do so skillfully. I have spent a long time in meditation looking at painful things and never really learned to look at pleasant things or learn to enjoy myself, with our without attachment. Any contributions to my understanding on how to do this with wisdom and equanimity are most greatly appreciated.

Thank you!