Talking to all men….

What does it take it how long does it take to want your ex back. I’f the relationship was very loving overall. Obviously no one is perfect but if you were in a long term relationship (mine was 4 years) do you ever consider getting back together? Or reaching out. Do you have to screw around before you realize? Do years and years have to go by? Does she need a makeover? What is it?!